characters or actors?

so many shows, series, and movie with amazing actors playing amazingly defined characters. we chased after them, obsessed about them and follow them. then again, are we in love with the actors or characters.

Danger

while we read and hear about random and varied types of dangers in the world especially those that comes in forms of advice, would it be wise to dismissed them?

others are experienced it, some heard about it, yet it is something of a next step planned to be taken, do we sway, stray or continue on?

Interpreting words for pure meaning

Found it hard to take words literally, especially when something of interest hits. It is hard to take a liking or feel bias against it and let imagination reflect the words instead. Imagination VS reality, deep meaning/ understanding VS simple reading/ translation.

In need of something or anything new...

Of late, there seemed to be a rather lack of excitement occurring in life. Even times of leaving self-imposed and constructed comfort zone don’t spark nervousness or trills. While trying to broaden activity scope by trying new experience to seek some sort of new focus, all attempts seemed to fail with utter lose in interest too fast.

Comfort zones are repeated habits, recurring patterns and regular practices one would do so often that it becomes them and the lack of focus don’t break them from doing what they intended. Once establish, staying in the comfort zone will allow a person to perform remarkably and naturally with limited levels of stress. Leaving their comfort zone is almost impossible for most people as nothing is predictable by regular sense and all things are new and estranged. Most try to coup while others expand their comfort zones to integrate in the new atmosphere, it is quite rare to see one who would develop a whole new comfort zone without the lack of revelations, epiphanies and outside assistance.

Comfort zones are tied quite closely personality, temperament and nature of an individual. Hobbies, ethics, moral standards, genre preferable, taste, artistic sense, company, needs and wants are established with each individual’s comfort zone. Example: it’s hard to have a Melancholic play spotlight leader and a stingy, self-centered loner to be charitable and generous. When one ventures out of their comfort zone, trying new things, eating or tasting new food, experience in different genre and etc., the attempts are often, if not always, short lived.  These ventures are mostly introduced by friends and relatives and unless they fit in with the comfort zone, sayonara.

So explorations and expansion has landed no where, haven't been able to find anything permanent. With all the things tried and yet no long term nor at least a flicker of sustaining, is it wrong to wonder if this will last? Or will revisiting or reminiscing comfort zone find some solace?

Feeling and knowing

Feeling and knowing

These days most people put everything they know and experienced into words. Novels, journals, memoirs, blogs, posts, tweets, biographies, even dictionaries are full with people’s understanding of things, placed into words for others to read. Most forms are more public than others but still present the same things: they are heart-felt related feelings translated for future reference.

For every emotion or situation one might be going through, there’s a really high chance someone has been there before. And based on the direction the industry is going, there’s a high chance someone has made it into a novel, movie, pilot, episode or award even. Sometimes scenes from a movie or chapter from a story are all too familiar, nostalgic or devaju like even.

It is good to sometimes find these scenes or story out of the blue and know we are not the only ones facing these problems. Though some elements are out of sort and others written to be too extreme or dramatic, fact is that the emotional connection one might siphon from it is genuine enough to relate. These gives people some sense of belonging and relevance.

Extensive and prolong exposure to same plot in the same genre especially love has really left a dent in the mental state of youth and teenagers. Forbidden love, love triangles, love-hates scenarios, hookups-splitting-hookup-again, promiscuity and etc are becoming the new “romantic”. Cinema regulars and couch potatoes have been found describing their ideal definition of love to be bitten by a vampire or princess like fantasies…… far from reality ain’t it?

Additionally, astoundingly early exposure to these genres has really expedited the maturity of youth these days. Public place, mall, schools even are now common grounds to catch a glimpse of premature-adolescence version of puppy love with the lack of shame, but just enough heat and flame. While they lack the hormones of puberty to allow for any unwanted complications, they are substituting with idolizing and imagination from movies and novels to the warmth sting of love.

While lacking common sense of the world and understanding of options, can what adolescence experience at the young age be real love of reality-tv love? If love a concept of feeling or knowing?

Peace

Peace is a rather abstract term ain’t it?  How many can actually define “peace” to a much relevant example?

To quote Wikipedia “Peace is a state of harmony characterized by the lack of violence, conflict behaviors and the freedom from fear of violence. Commonly understood as the absence of hostility”, peace also “suggests the existence of healthy or newly healed interpersonal or international relationships, prosperity in matters of social or economic welfare, the establishment of equality, and a working political order that serves the true interests of all.”

To a certain extent, yeah, all the above are true and examples are acknowledge, but how many of us actually know peace in our short life? Peace can be achieved from a wide scale even globally or as localized as the mental state of mind of one individual. No matter the scale of relevance the word is used on, without a doubt any sane individual would want to achieve it, live in and through it. So again, how many people have actually experienced “peace”.

In Galatians 5:22-23 Version (NIV) : ²² But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, ²³ gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. As understanding goes, peace is rather high on the ladder of fruits, which should indicate its prudence and benefit of attainment. Term “peace and tranquility” can often be related or even quoted from scriptures or scores from religion worldwide. So religious or atheist why is peace so hard to be achieved?

Interaction between individual will sometimes results in conflict, even between the best of friends, spouses and family members. Habitual pattern and behavioral practice which varies between people will always bring about conflict. However, in terms of individual scale, self-grand profit, morality conflicts decisions making also cuts peace from one’s mind. Is this yet another self-imposed irony human love to indulge in, wanting something but practicing the opposite?

In death, people will find eternal peace, at least physically anyway. Spiritually is a whole other story. The deceased are forever separated from the pain and conflict forever. Being alive, the closet peace one might get is probably during our sleep and even then dreams and nightmares might occur. Meditation in form of exercise such as yoga or spiritual connection is common ways of attaining peace. Then again how long does the effects last or how many people actually does that?

Notice that it is “piece” of mind, not PEACE?

Death, not all bad

Death is a concept or word not many, in fact majority will find negative. Attending a funeral recently tells a whole other story.

Yes there are plenty of tears and seeing what the person left behind, it is hard to not find it to be a bad situation, but it is not all bad, for the one that passed anyway. While one leaves behind all the time, thing, family, friends and plan that is his or hers, one also leaves behind all the bad and worries.

Not sure if all mortician or family members prefer to let the dead seem in peace in a coffin, but most bodies laying for the last sights by other seemed… in peace. Seeing them that way makes all earthly wealth and things seemed so… irrelevant. At the end of the day, all they needed was the last clothes they will and are wearing.

For all the things people chase after in life: fame, wealth, stuff, collection, status for some, none are relevant from that point. Maybe to those family and friends they left behind, they will somehow gain a portion of the worth these things are do the deceased, but as no two person are identical, these things will only be “stuff” that will remind them of the deceased.

While alive, we no doubt will come to a point think of the next whim or target and its worth of going through with it. Once obtained, most will definitely relish with it for as long as them can, to make sense of worth all the time and effort they invested. However, whims like all things fade with time and soon replaced by the next, thus forgotten.

So yes, every death is a sad thing, a waste some would say in cases of unnatural deaths. However, there is always a silver lining in all situations even in death. Call it optimism or rationalization or even clinging, but death, not that bad.